There are moments in life when the ground shifts, when the roles we’ve held and the identities we’ve clung to no longer fit. For me, this unraveling began years before I realized it was happening—back when I joined a women’s circle soon after arriving in Flagstaff. We met under the moon, moved with the Wheel of the Year, explored journeying, and began to reawaken my long-forgotten Celtic roots. It was in that circle that I first heard the name HeatherAsh Amara, though I didn’t yet know how deeply her teachings would shape the years ahead.
I listened to Warrior Goddess Training first as an audiobook, letting her words seep into places that had long been neglected. Then, in late 2019, I joined her online Warrior Goddess Training Circle and the immersive Journey of the Nine Moons. I didn’t know it then, but I was stepping into a container that would hold me through one of the most devastating experiences of my life.
How and When She Entered My Life
In 2019, I felt a longing that nutrition, mindset work, and even my spiritual rituals could not fully touch. It wasn’t a longing for answers—it was a longing for witnessing. For emotional and energetic support. For guidance that honored the parts of me that were exhausted from holding everything together.
Joining HeatherAsh’s circle felt like entering a sanctuary. Even though it was online, the power of the community was palpable. The women who gathered there created a sacred, safe space where the masks could fall away—where we were invited to explore our inner world without judgment. Where the roles we play for others (caretaker, mother, leader, healer) could finally rest.
A few months into the Journey of the Nine Moons, my world shattered: my 23-year-old son, Erich, was killed.
There are no words that fully capture the collapse that follows a loss like that. It was as if the ground was pulled out from under me—my body became mush, my heart became ash, and nothing in my life felt recognizable anymore. But somehow, I kept showing up to those online meetings. I let HeatherAsh know what had happened. I allowed myself to be held, witnessed, and supported.
Even in my grief, her teachings on the inner Judge and the inner Victim became lifelines. Yes, I was a victim of the event itself. But I consciously chose not to live in the victim role. The Warrior Goddess path kept whispering: “You are allowed to feel everything—and you are not defined by anything.”
The Teachings That Shifted Everything
Cycles Instead of Straight Lines
HeatherAsh taught me that life isn’t linear. It’s cyclical—just like the moon phases, the seasons, the rise and fall of breath. The pieces of myself I thought were “lost” were actually waiting to be reclaimed. She gave me permission to honor every part of the cycle: expansion, contraction, steadying, dissolving.
Truth • Feeling • Story • Intent
One of the most transformative frameworks she offers is the Warrior Heart Practice, built around four chambers:
- Truth – the simple, neutral facts
- Feeling – what your body is experiencing
- Story – the meaning your mind creates
- Intent – the energy and direction you want to embody
This practice became a compass during the darkest nights. It helped me navigate the waves of grief, the court hearings, the deep internal unraveling. It brought me back again and again to anchored presence—helping me distinguish between what was real and what was the story my fear or pain wanted to tell.
Unconditional Support and the Art of Becoming Mush
Through the circle, I received unconditional support at a time when I could barely keep myself upright. Witnessing others model compassion, nonjudgment, and authenticity taught me how to offer those same gifts to myself—and eventually, to my children and clients.
HeatherAsh often says that transformation requires becoming “mush,” just like the caterpillar dissolving before becoming a butterfly. That was exactly my experience. I softened. I unraveled. I let myself be undone. And I learned that healing happens “as long as it takes.” There is no rushing the sacred.
The Practices I Still Use Today
The Warrior Heart Practice
I return to the four chambers again and again, both in my personal life and in my work with clients. It offers a grounded, practical way to untangle shame, examine beliefs, and reconnect with intention.
Ceremony and Cyclical Living
Daily rituals, moon ceremonies, seasonal shifts, and creating altars—these practices became anchors. They continue to help me realign when life feels chaotic or uncertain.
Unraveling the Inner Judge and Victim
This is a constant practice. A remembering. A choosing. These archetypes show up often, especially in moments of stress or grief. But now, instead of collapsing into them, I meet them with curiosity and compassion.
Anchored Presence
Whether I’m navigating menopause, guiding a client through emotional pain, or sitting in meditation, the Warrior Goddess teachings remind me to stay rooted in my body, breath, and truth.
How Her Guidance Shaped My Healing, My Work, and My Way of Being
After going through the Journey of the Nine Moons three times, attending wilderness retreats, and traveling to the Warrior Heart Ranch, I emerged transformed. Not healed in a “finished” sense—but restored to my sacred self.
I learned to move through grief rather than around it. I learned to stand in my truth—even when trembling. I learned that boundaries are not barriers; they are expressions of love. And I learned that spiritual growth is not about transcending the human experience but meeting it with compassion, courage, and presence.
These teachings flow directly into my work now. When I sit with clients navigating autoimmune conditions, chronic stress, shame, grief, or emotional patterns that feel impossible to change, I bring the Warrior Heart with me. I guide them to untangle Truth from Story. I help them soften into their feelings without drowning in them. And I support them in finding their own Intent—one that comes not from fear but from clarity and love.
Reflections & Journal Prompts
The following reflection questions invite you to explore your own circle of influences and the mentors who have shaped your path:
- What cycles or seasons are you currently moving through in your life?
- Where are you being invited to soften, dissolve, or become “mush” so transformation can occur?
- What stories are you telling yourself that may not be the truth?
- Who in your life models unconditional presence—and how might you offer that same gift to yourself?
- Which rituals or ceremonies help you feel grounded and connected?
- What is your Intent for the next chapter of your journey?
Whether you are navigating grief, menopause, identity shifts, or simply the quiet ache of transformation, may these questions guide you toward remembering your sacredness.
Closing
HeatherAsh Amara entered my life at a moment when I needed depth, courage, and community more than I realized. Through her teachings, I reclaimed the lost pieces of myself and learned to live in alignment with the cycles of nature, the truth of my heart, and the rhythm of my soul. Her presence—along with the Warrior Goddess community—held me through the darkest nights and helped me rise again.
Today, I carry those teachings into everything I do. Into my work. Into my relationships. Into my healing. And into the way I support others in reclaiming their own sacred selves.
We are all held by mentors, seen and unseen. And when we soften enough to listen, we discover that transformation is not something we force—it’s something we allow.
Or start with When the Body Speaks: 5 Ways to Listen Instead of Fix.
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